Get UNSHRUNK

Showing up. Then shrinking. I write about that.

You show up.

Then shrink.

Let’s get into it.

Last night I changed NOT ENOUGH to Get UNSHRUNK

This is what that actually means.

And I’m going to say what most people won’t.

A lot of what we call “normal”

is exactly what keeps us stuck.

Being seen is neutral.

People noticing you? Neutral.

Being disliked? That’s the part that feels personal.

That’s where it stings.

Where you feel judged, misunderstood, rejected.

So you adjust.

You become more palatable.

You S.H.R.I.N.K.

And underneath all of that?

Your nervous system thinks it’s keeping you safe.

So yeah, that’s why you overthink.

Why you second guess yourself.

Why you pull back, delay things, avoid things, or quit before you’re even seen.

But it doesn’t have to stay that way.

All those parts of you that were labelled

“too much” or “not enough”?

Absolute bullshit.

Nothing is wrong with you.

But I’ll be honest…

those ideas kept me stuck for years.

Quietly.

Not dramatic. Not obvious.

Just that constant feeling of not quite landing in myself.

I got very good at shrinking.

So good it became automatic.

Saying “yeah, that’s fine”

when it wasn’t.

Avoiding things I actually wanted.

Talking myself out of opportunities.

Watching other people take up space

and deciding… without even realising…

to take up less.

That was my normal.

And from the outside?

It didn’t look like a problem.

I was successful.

I was likeable.

I was easy.

But I could feel it.

That drop.

Every time I left myself

to make someone else feel comfortable.

That’s the part people don’t really talk about.

You can see it.

Understand it.

Be completely aware of it…

…and still do it

in the exact moment it matters.

Or weeks before.

When you decide not to go.

Not to say it.

Not to even try to do it.

That’s what this is about.

What’s happening here?

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They’re the mirror

for all the ways you pull back.

The things you don’t say.

The opportunities you avoid.

The decisions you delay.

The times you disappear before you’re even seen.

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Inside, you’ll unlock my private toolkit:

1. Find your footing

Tools to settle the internal noise, regulate your system, and feel steady enough to stop second-guessing everything.

2. Step into your full presence

The work that helps you speak honestly ( with ease), make clear decisions, and show up without editing yourself to keep others comfortable.

3. Stay solid when it gets hard

For the moments things wobble…setbacks, doubt, old patterns… so you don’t disappear or undo your progress.

These are the tools I’ve used for years.

On myself.

And with clients.

EFT.

Hypno.

No fluff.

No gimmicks.

Tools you can actually use to break patterns.

Just things that actually create the shifts so you

stop disappearing from your own life.

The love corner

I’m also super excited to be opening a separate space:

UNSHRUNK: in love

Because this isn’t just about how you show up in work or life.

This is where it hits hardest.

Dating.

Relationships.

Self-worth.

Where you start strong…

and then slowly lose your voice.

Lose parts of yourself.

Say less than you mean.

Need less than you do.

Let things slide you know don’t feel right.

Where you tell yourself you’re being understanding,

easy-going, low maintenance…

…but something in you knows

you’ve once again left yourself somewhere along the way.

This space is for that.

We’ll get into:

• how you abandon yourself in dating

• why you override your needs in relationships

• what it actually takes to stay yourself when you care about someone

• how to stop shrinking just to be chosen

• why your anxiety feels so high in dating

• patterns and triggers in relationships

• the playbook narcissists use

• emotionally unavailable partners

If you’ve ever felt any of that…

you’ll recognise it immediately.

Pull up a chair.

Come closer…

A little love…💛

“Every time I read your posts, Annie, I feel like everything that has been in my head for so long showed up in words in your posts. It’s real, raw and powerful writing, and I love your little snippets of humour.”

“Ever read something and felt like the writer read your mind? Annie, you speak with such a level of honesty and vulnerability that I find myself stopping and asking myself much needed questions to help me grow. Thank you.”

“This newsletter feels like a conversation with someone who actually gets it.”

“I have based my worth on numbers and thinking I had to be like someone else, as I wasn’t ‘enough’. This has really helped me change my perspective on the way I view things.”

“Incredibly powerful read. Ive taken lots of notes, and definitely gained a new perspective, thank you Annie.”

You’re an “influencer” in the very best sense of the word. Signed, someone who benefits from your words, often.

Annie, you’ve no idea how much your words have kept me from quitting, time and time again. You’ve given me the confidence to show up, be bold and not allow anything or anyone to stop me. Reading your posts have completely reframed my perspective on things.