Welcome to NOT ENOUGH.

I’m glad you’re here.

NOT ENOUGH is where I write about the ways we shaped ourselves to feel safe and what it takes to undo that.

The shrinking we called being “easy-going.”

The “I’m not as important as everyone else.”

The “If I just get this right, I’ll finally feel enough.”

We gave all of it meaning.

We told ourselves it was just who we are.

I’ve been sober for 25 years. Recovery gave me the stable foundation I needed to get my shit together.

Since then I’ve done ALL the therapy. The healing. The somatic/trauma work.

The anything-that-ends-in-‘y’-and-costs-£100-an-hour.

I began two years training as a Psychotherapist, then changed track and trained as a Clinical Hypnotherapist, Louise Hay Teacher, EFT, NLP, Theta Healer, and became a Certified Coach. I’m a twice-published author my second book, The Confidence Factor, was a bestseller…and I’m now writing my third, my first novel.

I write about what’s held up.

The identity work that stayed when life didn’t go to plan.

The shifts that didn’t collapse six months later.

The things that helped me feel safe enough in my own body to stop shrinking.

I spent years making myself smaller so everyone else felt comfortable.

I don’t live like that anymore.

This is a space built from all the reading, learning, unlearning, practising, living, messing up, and getting back up again and again and again.

If you want to begin somewhere, start here: